Showing posts with label bridesmaids. Show all posts
Showing posts with label bridesmaids. Show all posts

Tuesday, July 3, 2012

Almost There


The bridal shower: the “almost there” point leading up to your wedding. Last weekend, I was lucky enough to have a BEAUTIFUL shower hosted by my best friends in the whole wide world! Which means, we are almost there! (less than 60 days)

The bridesmaids have very important duties. Being a bridesmaid a few times myself, this, I know. And really, all women know -- showers aren’t fun. It’s something you do because you love the person you are honoring and you grin and bear your way through the toilet paper dress making, eye-spy, and a plethora of other ridiculous games.

That was my #1 stipulation for my shower – other than this, I gave no input. I wanted NO stupid games! None. I’m sorry, but as I said before, no one actually likes them, unless you happen to be the 10 year old junior bridesmaid or flower girl.

And in my case, more than 130 invites went out for the shower! How on earth do you keep that many women entertained for a couple hours? For real. In actuality, around 80 attended.
Separately, the venue was decorated amazingly – props to my MOH and BMs. I continue to receive compliments.

But brides, and brides to be – being the absolute center of attention in a room full of women, some of which you have never met in your life – is a bit intimidating. There is nothing more awkward than the moment you open a card and gift from an individual you have never met, and quickly scan the room to do a quick thank you. Now, really, I am thankful for the gift, and I appreciate you getting all my towels, but “From Jill & Jack” on a card just isn’t going to cut it. I need last names people! Make a note to yourself next time, for the bride’s sake, if you are attending a wedding shower - sign your last name (unless you happen to be the BFF).

Now, maybe for people who have had smaller showers, this won’t be a big deal, but how on earth do you get to say hello to everyone. 80 women? Sheesh! I could have spent the two hours wandering from table to table to see how everyone is doing (and perhaps meet “Jill”), but it’s impossible. I feel terrible knowing that I barely got to spend any time with my family members who made it in from out of town just for these three short hours.

Another note – watch your choice of outfit. I was super pumped to purchase a new, cute dress for the occasion, even got me some sweet, new kicks to go with it! But it is a fine art being able to finagle heavy boxes and tear through wrapping paper in 5 inch stilettos and a short dress, all whilst trying to keep your legs crossed and be a “lady.”

Opening the gifts is fun. It’s like Christmas, but only with kitchen and household appliances. And you never realized how much fun a margarita machine can be until you have one (buy one, you don’t know what you are missing).

Ladies, if you are planning a shower for a friend – get in touch with my friends for tips, they did a fabulous job. I had a family member tell me that my MOH should quit her day job and take on event planning full time! If you are a bride to be, like me, soak this day it. It’s your “almost there” point. The final countdown has begun!
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Thursday, December 29, 2011

"I will never ask you to wear an ugly dress, as long as you're my bridesmaid!"

Well, the wedding nightmares have begun! I’ve heard it happens; I just didn’t expect them so soon. With so much going on at the new house and moving, I thought for sure my dreams would surround kitchen and bathroom renovations. But, I guess because my next big venture is the wedding, it IS on my mind.

Last week I took some of my bridesmaids to look at dresses. Who knew this decision would be harder than picking my own dress?! There is something about the unfamiliarity of choosing a dress that someone else has to wear that makes it so nerve-wracking. Will their dresses compliment my dress? How will they look with the guys’ suits? What kind of shoes? Short? Long? UGH!!! It was certainly more confusing than picking out my own dress.

I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again - I’m not the girl who has been dreaming about her wedding since kindergarten. I have a vision, but it is incomplete. And my indecisiveness about everything wedding-related stems from that. I must have had my girls try on close to 20 dresses – anything they liked, anything I liked. And from that 20, we might have a top five, or a top two (depending on the day).

Everyone says, “It’s YOUR day, pick a dress you like and that you want them in.” The thing is, I don’t know what I want. Again, I have a vision, but it is incomplete. Also, I will not be the one wearing the dress. Not all dresses look good on EVERYONE (we all know that), and I value the opinions of my friends and I want them to look good.

Just for shits and giggles - check this out!

However, I can’t say I am much further along in this decision making process than I was a week ago. I’ve now seen what I like and what I don’t like, I’ve seen cute dresses, ugly dresses, formal dresses, long dresses and short dresses. And I’m still confused.

I knew the minute when I found “the one” wedding dress. It was that feeling that every bride gets. But am I supposed to feel a certain way about a bridesmaid dress? If so, I don’t think I’ve felt it.

P.S. – 8 months until “the big day”
Holy Sh*t!
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